Blarkney Stone is a historic stone or part of Blakney Castle in Ireland where they believed that kissing a stone could give you a gab gift. Yes, it may seem strange in our day, but who are we to question culture? It’s not like I’m saying Santa Claus isn’t there (OOPS!).
There is so much to know about the conversation of anyone, even me, that I have never seen. You can walk away while watching talk shows; radio programs; clubs dedicated to public speaking; regular conversations; certain rules still apply when it comes to verbal communication. It may sound boring, I know, but even if it’s your mouth doing the work, your brain works twice as hard to produce as many things you know. So what better way to start learning to be an effective communicator is to get to know the person closest to you: yourself.
What you know
Education is about learning the basics, but being an effective speaker is what you learn. My stand as a guest at all the Toastmasters meetings I attended taught me that we all have our limitations, but that doesn’t mean we can’t learn to continue sharing what we know.
It is as important as asking questions. Sometimes listening to our voice can teach us a little more confidence and speak with conviction
We all make mistakes, and sometimes we tend to hold our words, stutter, and perhaps mispronounce certain words even though we know what they mean, but we rarely use them to impress the audience. So in the group, don’t be afraid to ask if you say the right word and if they are unsure then make a joke about it. I promise it will make everyone laugh and you can escape it too.
There is a lot to say when it comes to directing your attention to your audience with eye-catching eyes. You must focus on talking to a large group at a meeting or a gathering, or it can be good.
A little humour can do wonders to end a conflict, or even worse boredom when you make your presentation. That way, you will attract the attention of the majority of the crowd and they will feel that you are approachable and that you are a good listener.
Be like everyone else
Collaboration is about meeting other people. You will get a lot of ideas, as well as knowing what people do as they are.
Admittedly, there are times when you sing in the shower. I know I do! Listening to the sound of your voice as you conduct your speech in front of a mirror can help correct your stress areas. And while you are in it you can shed again
A smile means everything as eye contact. There is no need to shout or twist in the face of a meeting or a gathering unless it is a vigil.
There should be at least one or two people in your life listening to you when they are at a social gathering or perhaps at church. They indeed read their lines, but writing down their thoughts on how they emphasize what they are saying may help you once you have taken the first step.
Do better with preparation than simply taking notes and getting nervous immediately. Some people like to write things down on index cards, while others resort to being silly as they look at their notes written in the palm of their hand (please, no). Just relax as much as you know as you love your work.
And that’s a threat. This suggestion is a good idea, but I have learned to empower myself when speaking in public or in private and it has never been painful to have people listen to how they make conversations and meetings more fun and informative.